Messiah College
Midterm Exam
Andrea
Natividad September
11, 2012
Women who get pregnant out of wedlock should
not necessarily marry
I
believe that it was L.M. Montgomery who once said, “We should regret our
mistakes and learn from them, but never carry them forward into the future with
us.”
I
agree with this statement. One mistake should not define your future. If a
woman who committed pre-marital sex with a man whom she was not planning to
marry gets pregnant, realizes her mistake and gets married to her ‘baby daddy’
because they believe that this will make them right in God’s eyes, they are
wrong. God’s will for marriage is not based on having a baby. Marriage is a
sacred gift of God to humankind. How could something be given when you take it
without it being offered to you? That is not receiving, that is considered
stealing.
“I’m
pregnant.” Those two words can flip your world upside down. For a young woman,
unmarried and with no committed partner, this news is bad. The news is even
worse when this young woman happens to be a Christian who made a mistake one
night. She knows that what she did was wrong, and she wants to make things
right. So she wants to get married, because it is God’s desire for every child
to have a father. This young woman may not be in love with this man, and he is
certainly not a guy she would ever marry if she wasn’t pregnant, but this would
make things right, right? NO! Two wrongs don’t make a right. She may be making
an even bigger mistake and may even be completely removing herself from God’s
will if she follows through with this decision. She could be sacrificing whatever
God’s best plan for her is in exchange of something that she and the man may
think is right. This woman, by wanting to do what is right, may just be jumping
out of the frying pan and into the fire.
By
getting married, two people commit to a lifelong covenant. The words ‘til death
do us apart’ should ring in your ears. Having a baby is no reason to get married.
What if the child gets in an accident and tragically passes away? The couple
now has no reason to stay married. Thus they divorce. Statistics prove that
couples who get married because a baby is on the way have a higher chance of
failure than those marriages based on real love, patience and trust.
Of
course there are certain cases when it is the best for the expecting couple to
get married. For instance, if they were already planning to get married, it
would absolutely be the wisest choice to just get married sooner. Having both a
mother and a father present before the child is born is the most ideal
situation. The couple, who had a good solid foundation for their relationship,
will most likely work out with no problems. They were already on the way to
marriage; the baby may just be a speed lane. However, if you’re talking about a
different couple, marriage is most definitely not the path they should take. This
couple might just be marrying for the sake of saving themselves from
embarrassment of their sin. It takes a lot of maturity to raise a child. However,
by being rash in their decision to get married, the couple is showing
immaturity. They are just going to prolong the wait until their marriage, which
was not built on a solid foundation, eventually collapses. If you want a
marriage to properly work, God should be at the center, not a pregnancy.
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